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Hey there. I’m so happy you’re here! I’m Crystal Irom, and here’s what I know: making money with your passion — your creative, coaching, or online business — doesn’t have to be so hard.

I know you’ve been spinning your wheels trying to make this entrepreneurial dream of yours work.

Well, my dear. That’s enough of that.

I want to help you let go of the fears, up your confidence, and get a strategy in place to create a sustainable and profitable business.

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Your thoughts and beliefs drive your behavior and actions. Your behavior and actions are the results you see in your physical world.⠀
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You can change your behavior and see different results. But it’s harder to maintain. ⠀
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The better approach is to change your thoughts and beliefs, which will naturally change your actions and behaviors and lead to more sustainable results.⠀
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But you’ve gotta choose the path of least resistance. Sometimes starting with the behavior is just faster and easier.⠀
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I’ll tell my clients and students to stop pursuing a man if he seemed really interested and starts pulling away.⠀
I’ll tell them to let him take the lead.⠀
Stop calling him. ⠀
Just stop doing so much.⠀
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It’s not a “trick” or a game. It’s about making a shift away from desperation. Away from clinginess. It’s releasing the dependency on him for your joy and satisfaction. ⠀
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The idea is to give both of you space. For him so that he can get in touch with what he wants and decide if he does want to step forward and pursue the relationship. And for you so that you can get back in touch with yourself and the truth of who you are:⠀
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Valuable. ⠀
Worthy. ⠀
Loveable.⠀
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A human who is not dependent on someone else’s love and approval for joy. And from that place. That solid belief. Making conscious decisions about how to move forward in relationship. ⠀
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Tag your two fave valuable, worthy, loveable women.⠀

Women in my love & relationship Facebook group keep ending or starting their posts with, “what am I doing wrong?”
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But the thing you’re doing wrong is thinking you’re doing something wrong.
There’s no real “wrong” in dating. We don’t all have one uniform code that guides us.
What is right for you is wrong for another. What is wrong for you may be right for another.
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What there is are actions, behaviors, beliefs, thoughts, and choices that are more or less aligned with what you desire.
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The most important of which is your beliefs. Also known as your stories. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The stories you tell about yourself.
The stories you tell about love and relationships.
The stories you tell about men.
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The story that you’re “doing something wrong,” will manifest in your reality just like that. As if you’ve done something wrong.
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You cannot get it wrong.
You can make things harder and easier for yourself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Stories you may want to adopt instead?
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I’m loveable because I am.
I get love because I do.
I’m so happy and grateful to be with my true love now.
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Allow those stories to manifest into your reality instead.
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If you 100% believed that there was nothing for you to get wrong, how would you feel?

“Stop looking and you’ll find him”⠀
“Oh, I met him when I wasn’t looking!”⠀
“It’ll only happen when you least expect it!”⠀
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It’s one of the most infuriating things to hear as someone who is seeking their partner. But here’s what it’s really about (and why it does actually work).⠀
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It’s not about actually stopping the “search” or releasing the desire. ⠀
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It’s about releasing the pressure. ⠀
It’s about surrendering. ⠀
It’s about patience.⠀
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People say “I give up” but you’re not actually giving up. You’re just letting go of your own hold on the situation. You’re saying, “I understand that I’m ok even without this thing that I desire.” Recognizing your ok’ness (on a deep level) creates space for that things to drift right into your life. It’s releasing the when, the how, the control, and simply letting things align.⠀
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I never “gave up” and I was never “not looking” for my person. So if you’re thinking, “well, I guess I don’t get to have love because I’m always looking for him,” stop that right now. That’s not what I’m saying! What I’m saying is that I released the hold on the specifics. The when. The how. The where. And when I was dating I stopped trying to figure out if the guy I went out with on Tuesday was the one. I just dated and released expectations.⠀
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You can do that at any moment. ⠀
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Place your hand on your heart. Close your eyes. Breathe. Appreciate your own aliveness. How ok you are in every moment.

Being afraid of getting hurt. Having up walls. Being guarded. None of these things are a badge of honor.

Yet so many people hold them out as if they are.

As if it’s a distinguishing factor. Something that makes them unique. Special. More or less deserving of love.

Yes, they’re part of many humans experiences, but that doesn’t mean they’re something to be proud of. You can accept a part of yourself, without keeping it on display.

Many of us are afraid to get hurt.

And without releasing this. Lessening your grip on it. Releasing your pride in it. You’re not going to call in the relationship you desire.

I’m not saying you must release all fear before you’re ready for love. Of course, not.

What I’m saying is that if you’r holding this out as a point of pride, you’re not at your most attractive. Your most magnetic.

Because love requires softening.

When you hold out your edges, your fear, your wall as part of your identity and the first thing potential partners will encounter its like your sending out a signal saying, “don't come any closer. I have a story that I’m unwilling to release. My story requires I be alone and untrusting. Don’t bother.” You’re so much more than your pain.

You’re calling it insecurity, but you just don’t believe in relationships. There’s nothing wrong with you.

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