Are you keeping yourself small?

 Are you keeping yourself small?

Are you doing things to keep yourself small?

I was working with one of my incredible entrepreneur clients, Leah, a matchmaker.  She is bright, well spoken, and has a deep desire to serve.  She is asked to speak for various events about relationships and dating.  We were preparing her for one such event when she mentioned she was going to bring one of her colleagues along to speak also.

"Are you not up for giving the talk?" I asked.

"No, I'm feeling fine," she answered.

"Did they ask for an additional speaker?" 


"Then why?"

"I don't know. It will be less scary that way."

"So you're using her as a security blanket?" I asked.


I wasn't asking out of judgment - I was really curious.

There are times that things feel scary. When it feels safer to keep yourself small. To be unseen. To have a security blanket. 

When I launched my coaching biz, leaving my law firm to become an entrepreneur, I wasn't ready.  I don't know if you can be fully ready for that kind of transition -- its a scary thing! But courage isn't about the absence of fear, its moving forward in spite of it. When we keep ourselves small, its benefits no one.  I think Marianne Williamson said it best: 

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frighten us.  We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?"

Indeed, who are you not to be?! Where have you been keeping yourself small? Are you willing to play a bit bigger?