Where are you holding back your desires
Do you have everything you want in you life?
Do you even know what you truly want?
I keep hearing from women who respond to the question, “what do you really want/” by saying, “I don’t know.”
I don’t think that’s true. I think that you do know. Because you’re the only one who can know. Your desires were placed in our heart and they’re real and true for you, but you’re the only person who can know what they are.
Women keep from admitting what they truly want because of fear that they can’t have it. Fear that if they admit they truly want it, certainly to someone else, but even to other people, and they don’t get it, then they’ll be humiliated. Seen as less-than. A failure.
But none of that’s true. It’s not how other people will see you. But even more importantly, that’s not what’s going to happen. If you admit what you truly desire, can align with it (meaning believe it’s possible), and take action that’s inspired by it, then it will happen.
If you don’t know that, you’re operating on a flawed premise about what’s possible for you when the truth is...
1 | KNOW YOU CAN BE, DO, OR HAVE WHATEVER YOU DESIRE
There is no universal decree stopping it.
The only thing standing in your way? The limitations you’ve created in your own mind.
The voice in your head telling you…
I’m not good enough…
I’m not smart enough…
I’m not worthy…
I don’t deserve…
All of those lies that our inner mean girl tells us. That we believe and that stops us dead in our tracks.
They are lies, but we don’t call them out.
Instead of stopping that voice and saying it’s not true we listen. We listen to that and we act in accordance with it instead of what we should be doing…
Asking IS THAT TRUE?
...DOES IT SERVE ME TO THINK THAT?
If we did stop to ask if it’s truth or a story, we’d see that more often than not it’s a story. It’s a flawed premise. It’s just a lie that we’ve been telling ourselves since we were little.
We ALL have these stories that we create. Our success in life isn’t determined by having the stories or not but our willingness to recognize them for what they are. And then tell new stories.
2 | QUESTION THE STORIES WE ALL TELL
There are certain universal stories that we all tell.
...there’s not enough
...if I ____ I’ll fail
...I’m not enough
These stories are sticky. And convincing. And seem so true and have become such a part of the collective unconscious, that for most, at least one is solidly ingrained before puberty.
But they’re not true. They were never true. If you can understand and know that on a deep, soul-level things will click into place.
**IF YOU KNEW THE LIMITATIONS YOU’VE CREATED BASED ON THE UNIVERSAL STORIES WE TELL WERE FALSE, WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE LOOK LIKE?**
3 | QUESTION THE STORIES YOU TELL
In addition to the stories that we all tell, we all tell stories about limitations that seem more personal. These could be based on experiences you’ve had that are not universal such as dysfunction in your childhood home or events that were traumatic for you.
In what ways do you believe you are uniquely worse off than other humans?
What afflictions, disadvantages, limitations do you have that are uniquely you or limited to a group of people like you?
There is truth to the circumstances. But anything that happened in the past is just that — in the past.
**IF YOU KNEW THE LIMITATIONS YOU’VE CREATED BASED ON YOUR PAST WERE FALSE, WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE LOOK LIKE?**
4 | YOU DON’T NEED TO GET RID OF YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
...You need to learn to ignore them. What we focus on expands. If you can focus on what you want and what you’re creating instead of what you believe is holding you back, you can see your desires expands and your limitations shrink.
At first, you’ll have to more consciously ignore them. That’s why you’re taking the time to imagine what your world is like without those limiting beliefs.
5 | WRITE OUT WHAT YOU WANT
Just write out everything you want. In the present tense using word like I am. I have. I’m doing. Don’t limit yourself or censor yourself. Just get it all out.
6 | TAKE IT TO 212 DEGREES FAHRENHEIT
Now that you’ve considered what your life would look like without limitations and have written down what you really want, turn it up. Stretch yourself.
Allow your desires to reach a boiling point because I know that what you’ve already written isn’t the full extent. You wrote that based on where you are. Where you’re still dealing with limitations. Release them all fully and get back to writing.
7 | LET IT CLICK IN TO PLACE
Read through everything you wrote and start to really feel it. Believe it. See it. Know that this is just s true as anything that happened in the past or anything else that will happen in the future.
8 | RINSE AND REPEAT
Do it again tomorrow. And the day after. And the day after that. Watch as things begin to unfold as you’ve written.
I completely believe in you. I had the universal limitations that we all all had and I had a TON of the unique beliefs. I went through stuff in my life that made me feel undeserving and unworthy of love, security, and wealth. But I’ve created a life that makes my heart sing and I’m just getting started. I know that if it’s possible for me, it's doubly possible for you.
CHEERS — to your life!