I received an email from a lovely woman in my community who had invested in a coach training program and was’t feeling confident in her skills as a coach. She asked a question that I’m sure many others have also wondered — how did you become a great coach.
I felt like she was expecting a deep complicated answer, but I told her what I really think it boiled down to:
1 | I hired a coach 1-on-1
If you ask 5 different people about this you’ll likely get 5 different responses, but here’s my thought on it: hiring a coach to work with 1-on-1 will accelerate your growth unlike any other thing you’ll do. Especially when you’re new in business.
Is it necessary for everyone?
Of course not.
But that doesn’t mean there isn’t massive value for the people who do make the decision to invest in a coach to work with.
Nothing can beat the 1-on-1 interaction and feedback. Plus, it’s a different thing to learn about coaching and study coaching, than it is to be powerfully coached.
When I started my business I invested in a year long coach training program and 4 months with a private coach. They were roughly the same investment. I received 10x more value from working with someone 1-on-1.
There was nothing wrong with the training I went through, but I outgrew it way before the year was up. Working with a coach 1-on-1 however, was transformative for me.
Many people become coaches without ever having hired or worked with a coach before. Of course it’s going to feel confusing and overwhelming to start your business. It’s hard to get a clear idea of what powerful coaching looks like without experiencing it first hand.
Plus, if you truly believe in the value of coaching — which, if you’re a coach, I hope you do.
It’s just common sense that you would want to experience it for yourself.
Does this lead to some stereotypes that it’s all just a pyramid scheme? Coaches coaching coaches coaching coaches?
But, seriously. Who cares?
Therapists have therapists. Doctors have doctors. Teachers have teachers. And even if they didn’t. It doesn’t matter.
Do your beautiful work . Transform people’s lives.
2 | I started
I started coaching people before I felt ready.
Not to say I started charging people willy nilly and helping them without being at all qualified. I worked with A LOT of people without charging at all.
I simply practiced the skills that I’d been learning.
I had 100+ coaching conversations in 3 months just so I could gain that confidence.
Yes, your time and work are valuable and you should be compensated.
But not when you don’t have experience. When you don’t know how to best serve people. When you’re not confident in the transformation provide.
At that point. Anyone willing to be your guinea pig is helping you as much as you’re helping them.
Don’t let your ego keep you from becoming great at what you do.
Because once you are, your earning potential is only limited by the limits you place on it.
3| I continuously invested in my education
I am a learner.
And if you’re going to be a powerful coach, you’ll want to be one too.
Books, courses, retreats, seminars, etc. If you can’t afford to learn, your success will be limited. This doesn’t mean you have to drop thousands on courses and retreats. You can invest in lower end courses, free learning, and books.
Now. This has got to be counterbalanced with creation and productivity and turning within.
There are times for intensive learning. Coaching. Mentoring from others.
And there’s a time to just get out there and do the work. Share the message that’s true for you.
Don’t let learning become a crutch. Or a tool for procrastination or perfectionism.
Be willing to learn. Be willing to implement.
4 | I implemented what I learned
You have to get out there and do the work.
If you think you’re going to learn every single thing about any particular subject before you get started you’re going to get stuck.
As a recovering perfectionist, I’m well aware of this trap.
It can be challenging to subdue those thoughts telling me that I must do it perfectly.
Because if you don’t actually implement what you learn nothing will happen.
I was naturally inclined towards coaching. It's a profession that uses all of the skills and qualities that come most naturally to me. But I wasn’t nearly as powerful or confident a coach when I started as I am today.
There’s only so far that the studying of your art can get you. Eventually you have to get out there and apply it.
I had to coach other people.
I wasn’t sure about it when I started.
I felt nervous and scared and very afraid of messing up.
I had to learn how to create boundaries.
When a potential client was needed a referral for therapy rather coaching.
But I wouldn’t have been able become a great coach if I hadn’t started.
Of course I messed up. Of course I had clients that didn’t experience as much transformation as they wanted. Of course I wasn’t perfect.
But I did it and now I’m a powerful coach. I help clients shift in 15 minutes and after a few months together their whole lives have transformed.
If you’re working on growing your own coaching business, hit reply and let me know! I’d love to hear what you’re working on. If you’re not sure which activities you should be focusing on, be sure to take the Focus Formula quiz so you can get some clear direction.
I’ll be over here cheering for you!